What’s in your love basket?

Every couple has a love basket, the difference is what’s in the basket. Today, let’s take some time to look at what I like to call ‘the love basket’. So what is a love basket? It is a basket meant to be filled with actions or memories of love towards each other. This means that from the day you commit to be in each other’s lives, you both contribute in filling or not filling the love basket. Many people mostly think that marriages break down because of the presence of many problems. I agree, however there is another side of it. Marriages also break down because there is nothing worth staying in there for. When couples are deciding to separate or divorce, I always ask them if there is any experience that they can hold on to. I mean any experience that can counter the challenge. It is disappointing that some couples try to search for these memories and find little or none. This means that for the period this couple was together, their love basket has been empty or inactive, therefore when challenges come, there is nothing to hold on to!

Active love basket

Have you ever wondered why some couples still stick together even if they seem to have a lot of challenges? Throughout my engagement with couples I came to realize that what keeps marriages stronger is an active love basket rather than the absence of problems. This means that challenges or problems will be there but do we have enough contents in the love basket to weigh them out? Are we making an effort to create meaningful memories? An active love basket is a powerful tool that preserves marriages . An active love basket is love put into action. If a love basket is active it means that people are conscious of the importance of engaging in activities that helps to keep the fire burning in their marriage. The idea is to create memories with your loved one that makes them to smile even in challenging times. These memories are created in different ways, depending on your resources and what you love and enjoy doing. It could be a holiday for 2, appreciation gifts or ceremonies, assisting your partner to achieve their personal goal. The love basket contents are unique to every couple. Also take note that this is not about money, even without money memories can be created. What is needed is the desire to create special moments together.

Empty or inactive love basket

I have realized that when people get married there are many things that seem more important than doing activities that contribute to filling our love baskets. It could be children needing care and attention, a busy business, demanding job or anything that just consume time and energy. For some reason, marriage enrichment activities are regarded as unnecessary or causing waste of money. Most people focus on achieving goals and forget to keep on working on keeping the fire of love burning in their marriages. In the midst of a busy life the marriage suffers because very little or nothing is done to ignite the fire of love. If there is little or no acts of love towards each other, there is a chance that both or one of you will be frustrated. The biggest danger of having an empty or inactive love basket is that when challenges come, they may prevail over love. Challenges will come and you will have very little or nothing to hold on to. This is the reason why some people usually come to a decision that divorce is a better option, because its not worth staying. That is why I am asking you today, What’s in your love basket? Start working on it, start making plans on how you will keep the fire burning!

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