Who is Mr/Ms Right?

Many people desire and hope to find a perfect partner. No one wants to enter into marriage expecting a divorce however sometimes people find themselves living in an unhappy marriage, divorced or separated. When many people are looking for a partner, they have their own perspective of who Mr or Ms Right is. While some people look for a good physical structure, some look for general goodness of character. There is nothing wrong with looking for what you want in a person but if you want a happy marriage that lasts, it has to be more than looks or general goodness. Look at many people who got married thinking their partner was the right one, only to realize later that they cannot spend the rest of their life with this person. For those who are thinking of getting married one day, be warned and engage in a correct process of finding the correct Mr or Ms Right.

Almost everyone enjoy the early days of their relationship right? They were good memories and sometimes even when people have separated or divorced, they always wonder where they went wrong. They are always asking themselves where they missed it. How did they move from being people who love each other to be people who hate each other? A perfect partner is not one who can only make you happy but also one who understands you and is able to tolerate your behavior. Everyone has something that totally puts them off and everyone has a type of behavior which they say “its a NO NO for me”. Be sure not to marry someone who says one of your behaviors is a NO NO. What makes people divorce is not usually a single act but a series of frustrating behaviors built up together.

The process of finding a perfect partner should not only be limited to physical attributes such as body structure, money or status. It should also not be limited to how much a person is able to make you happy. It may make sense for you to require all these attributes however it is not complete. Do not miss assessing both your personalities and assess if they are compatible. Everybody has a level of tolerance which helps to sustain a relationship. Your duty is to learn your personality and your partner’s personality and see if each of you are able to tolerate some of the behaviors. Lets take an example of a short tempered, if you are short tempered and you marry someone who is also short tempered, you are likely to be constantly fighting. If you marry someone who is argumentative, this may heighten your anger and end up in physical fights. If you marry someone with behaviors that triggers your anger you might end up fighting as well. This doesn’t mean that you marry someone to abuse. You work on your anger and the triggers but at the same time you need to find a partner who doesn’t increase the problem but complement your character. Imagine if both of you have short tempers, how will that work? So do not only look at the physical body nor the easily seen behaviors. Go further to establish your personality, know who you are and learn your partner’s personality. The idea is that where you are weak your partner is strong and vice versa.

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