Yeepy! It is just four days left until valentine’s day. A time to show love, a time to live love. How can you make it memorable for your loved one? No matter what you are planning to do, no matter how you will do it, here are two fundamental principles for making your loved one feel special.
Show love without holding back
Loving without holding back means that you will express love without reservations; that’s why it is called falling in love. Let us take the literal meaning of falling; it means you don’t have control over the force of gravity, right? You just fall. That’s precisely what you should do if you want to enjoy a special moment, you let love take over! Sometimes people hold back because of past experiences, fear of rejection or any other reasons; however, if you want this valentines weekend/day to be unique, you should try to love without holding back. When we hold back, it isn’t easy to give our best. It is also challenging to express our feelings because we will be trying to control or keep our feelings inside instead of releasing them to create a meaningful moment for you and your partner. So one thing to remember is that even if your relationship has gone through challenges, as long as you are still together, you deserve moments of happiness. Sometimes, little special moments may help both of you recognise your love for each other. Remember, an empty love basket signifies that things are going down. Why won’t you take this opportunity to fill it up? You can only fill it up when you love without holding back.
Make it different
For something to be memorable and meaningful, it has to be different from how you usually do things. If you do something that’s just in the routine, like something you typically do, it won’t impact you because you are both used to it. I challenge you to do something new or something important to both of you to bring joy and connection. What is it that you can do differently?
Make an effort
I looked at the English dictionary’s example of effort, and I loved it. “When you put an effort, you do it, even though you need extra energy to do it or you do not really want to”. In the context of love, I would say making an effort is just about putting in extra energy. There are things we don’t do, maybe because we don’t have time, money or resources, or we don’t have the power, but once in a while, when it is special days like these, we can go out of our way make an effort. When your partner recognises the effort, it brings joy and love. Let your loved one see that you have made an effort. Let them see that you have gone out of your comfort zone, let them see that you have put extra energy, let them see that it is not business as usual. Make an effort!
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Dr Nyanhaz 
Well written piece
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